Yes! This is the way I have been feeling for the last 2 days.
We have not heard anything from the CCAA on our request to adopt the boys.
I know that it has taken a good bit of time for parents with children on the Shared Listing to get a response, so ours was bound to take longer-since the boys are not on anything.
Anyway.... After I talked to our agency I realized that my husband I have been sponsors with the organization that houses them for 4 years...why not just see what THEY can find out.(Which is probably what I should have done a long time ago. Hey! I never said I was a rocket scientist.)
So I make a call, get an e-mail address, e-mail the chick, and she calls me back in less than an hour. I tell her the situation and she says this, "Most of the boys that have no OBVIOUS special needs or OBVIOUS disabilities are now being kept in China for the Chinese to adopt. I am afraid that this is going to be the case with the boys. I will e-mail the director of the home that they are in and find out exactly what is going on, their status and if they know anything about your letter of request. I will let you know as soon as I hear back. It usually takes a few days. " Hmmmmm....O.K.?
I was a little stunned by this.
I guess I never thought that there was a possibility orphaned children would NOT be given the opportunity to be adopted abroad because they appeared to be healthy .
Boggles the mind.
On a Happier note:
1. Even if this does not work out-We are still going to LID with our agency in Birmingham. We are still going to try and identify a son or a daughter.
We LOVE LifeLine and are excited that they are going to be a part of this "craziness" with us.
2. We are still going to be the boys' sponsors until they do "go home", so I will be able to keep up with what they are doing and I will know when they have been adopted (if it is by someone else.)
So that's cool.
3. Mary has had WAY MORE time to be the baby than she would have had we adopted from Taiwan in December of 2007(time line we were originally quoted).
So that's good.
Everything will work out.
Stacy and I felt like we needed to write the letter and make the attempt to bring these boys home..If it doesn't work out, that's O.K.
We tried.
Really- that's all you can do.
Peace.
a-
ReplyDeletesince we have both been learning about the whole culture thing from mei-ling, the thought of china promoting/allowing domestic adoption is great...but i would like to know...is it happening? do they have families interested and able to adopt these boys? will they have to be split up? how long will they be denied a family in order to be placed domestically? AND...if this is the new policy, shouldn't it have been made known publicly to all agencies? our china homestudy says healthy boy...so now is that not an option? not that we wouldn't be happy to adopt SN, but we would need our HS changed.
T-
ReplyDeleteMy understanding is that it is "Un-written" just "UNDERSTOOD". No agencies will be given this info.
Welcome to the CCAA. I'm sure that there will be a few here and there. But noone felt like these boys were one of those "few".
I do pray that they are...I already have our first Disney trip planned....but it is not looking good.
xoxo,
A
oh how I pray that these boys are ment to come hope with you!
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What part of china are they from?
I have heard from the newspaper the china daily that familys near the earth quake areas are been paid money and told they can have more children if they adopt
Oh, Andrea- that is discouraging news. But, it sounds like you are keeping a good perspective. That has to be hard considering. It is so disappointing to see these kids waiting in SWIs when there are absolutely hoards of people in line to adopt children from China. It breaks my heart to see that the kids are not really put first in the whole thing. It seems to me that these boys- and every other orphan in the world- should be given the first opportunity at a home that comes up. How long might they wait to be adopted domestically- I don't think those lines are very long at all!!
ReplyDeleteIt is SO frustrating. Really, that is the worst part of the wait- knowing that there are kids who need homes that aren't getting them even while many of us wait and wait to bring our children home!
I'm praying for you all. Thankfully, God is a God of miracles, so we can still pray for that!
i am somewhat confused...i've been following your blog for awhile now, but i never really understood how you came to find these little boys in china...did you identify them?
ReplyDeletewouldn't them being siblings be special need enough as china has not changed their 1 child policy...or will they split them? uugh. i hate to think of that.
i'm an optimist. i would like to think that if you CAN adopt them that it is a complete God thing and then you can have peace that it is definitely HIS will.
Although maybe i'm the only one that continues to question such things!;)
I will pray.
Hey Billie- They are two of the 12children that we sponsor through PHF.They are not on any listing, never have been that I know of. It has always been a longshot, but they are/were considered SN and we know of cases that have been approved after parents wrote letters asking. We figured..What the heck..We'll ask..We already have the INS approval for two...so why not..The CCAA usually frowns on such, but I am hard to detour...I'm an envelope pusher. :)
ReplyDeleteoh how frustrating, but you have a great attitude. I'm sure something will work out!
ReplyDeletePraying for quick resolution for your family. I admire your strength and perspective with all this, and most of all your huge generous heart! Sending hugs and hoping things will go your way.
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