4.04.2009

My First PROM..............


as a parent.

My little man got all dolled up to take his best girl to the MCHE Banquet.

I must admit that I handled it a tad better than I thought I would.


I looked across the vehicle and there sat this man
looking back at me..wearing MY shades..BTW


Then he hops out of the truck with the confidence of ten men
and takes his friend her flowers and the photo op starts.


I remember doing this.
I was so afraid I was going to stick the poor guy!

It was funny...she kept saying the same thing.
Caleb just smiled and told her not to worry-
"No one will be able to see the blood through the jacket".


Sweet little pair, aren't they?


We arrive at his best friends house for pics.
You guys might remember these kids from the DISNEY pictures!
I tell ya..these kids LOVE each other.


A Beautiful Bunch of Kids.




These guys can't put on a tux without taking a "007" Picture....

So of course the chicks had to break out with the "Charlie's Angels" shot.

They all jumped in the car....

and drove away......
And I cried.
I am REALLY not old enough for this. LOL!
PEACE.

4.01.2009

Pretty



that is just all there is to it.

That star.
Something about that bright red star makes you feel like you are "finally gettin' somewhere".

It was the same with Mary-
Didn't really get worked up until we started signing referral paperwork and then it hit.

I am having a little"what if he hates me" anxiety.
He is a toddler..so he may.

That is freakin' me out a little.

I woke up at 3 AM a few nights ago .
A mini panic attack.

I do this when I have to leave the kids.

I want to take them all.
I know it is a horrible idea..but I still do not want to leave them.

So my other plan was for Stacy to stay home and me just go alone....not so great for Stacy..but Good for me and my stress level.
Breathe, Daddy...He said NO! & something about me not being able to stay out of trouble & what that would do to HIS stress level...whatever that means?!?!

I have always been a "have my cake and eat it too" person.

By the GRACE of GOD, I have been blessed with the only man on earth who actually thinks that my little character flaw is part of my charm.

I know that the kids will be fine, but I still have the same fears....

What if the plane goes down? What if we get sick over there? What if something goes wrong with the adoption? What if we get robbed? and My favorite...and honestly the most likely... What if I hack someone off and we get thrown into a Chinese prison?

What?? You never thought of that?

We are hoping that we are hoping a plane in 6 weeks..but we are not betting the farm on it.

My Grandmother is still in the hospital and her health is slowly getting worse.

She is on dialysis now.

She needs it.

We do not want her to keep that fluid on.

It is so hard to keep it off when you can't get up and move around and that vent makes it impossible.

She is also tired...but not too tired to mouth words to the kids and get a little hacked when they can't understand what she is trying to say. Sassy Thang.

She is a fighter..Always has been.

She is amazing to us and she is baffling her doctors.

She is my hero..Always will be.

6 kids.

3 boys/3 girls.

The Brady Bunch in Boots..only Alice was no where to be seen.

I do not want to leave her.

I am afraid that something will happen and I am on the other side of the world.

But I will.... She would just sigh and shake her head at me..if I told her that i was staying.

She really doesn't have to say anything behind that...you know exactly what she means,"I would have expected more than that from you".

No-one and I mean No-one wants to see that from her.

I am sure it was (at one time) her most Powerful Parenting Tool.

So those are the top 3 on my prayer list right now-

Adam Andrew Xiang & Bennie Lee & My Big Babies.

Prayin' 2 home & for 5 stayin' at home.

It is a complicated place to be....but I am blessed to be here.

PEACE.

3.26.2009

IN A PERFECT WORLD



OK Tish-

So as you can plainly see I have a schedule.

Those little card thingy's you see on the side are chore cards.
One for each kid.
So here it goes:

On a perfect day-
I get up at 5-6 am
check emails, read Bible,ya know that kinda thing.
6am-Stacy gets up and is off to work and 7am the kids and I have breakfast,
8:30 have school, 10amhave snack time,11am have outside play time,12am lunch- I get some laundry done,
12:30-2:30we have quiet time, 2:30-3:30the big kids finish school, play with the kids, more play time, 4:30I start supper , 5:30-6 Daddy comes home, 6:30 we have supper, chill out and 8:30 then it is off to bed.

I mean.... you see it all right there on the MASTER SCHEDULE.

Now let me give you an average day
The roosters start crowing at 5am.
Stacy & I lay in the bed and either laugh at the roosters and talk about our likeness to the GREEN ACRES characters, OR curse the roosters and wish they were dead.
Stacy gets up and gets in the shower and I pretend I am in college and "I am going to skip class today".

I roll out of bed and turn on the computer and go into the kitchen and TRY to heat water for coffee or tea as quietly as I can....not because I do not want to rob the sweet little monkeys of any sleep..because I ain't ready to start foolin' with them yet.

I get half way through the emails and Mary Elizabeth with her BIONIC ears comes in and crawls onto my lap.
She gets bored with me and goes and gets into my and Stacy's bed.
I finish the emails.

Then I hit a blog or two before Rachel comes in.
She crawls in the bed and yells at me because MARY won't share MY pillow and she doesn't want to sleep on Stacy's MAN pillow.

I threaten to send them back to their rooms or make them sleep in the barn..depending on how much coffee I have had and then I look at the clock.

Almost 7:30. I go to the back of the house to be sure Caleb & Hannah are awake to feed the animals.

Hannah is already out the door(most days) & I hear Caleb yell "I'm putting my boots on!"as I walk down the hall.

Stacy kisses me bye, tells the Little girls not to take any wooden nickles, grabs a NAKED Protein Drink and is out the door.

Ben comes rolling down the hall and tells me he wants grits, eggs ,and toast "with a great deal of butter on it" ala MERCY WATSON.
Everyone starts talking about what they want for breakfast, fussing over who is entitled to the last Light & Fluffy Yogurt, and I get to referee and tell them that no one is getting the yogurt because 4 people want it and there is only one, "No one gets yogurt until I can go to the grocery store".
Mary Elizabeth pooches out her lip and Rachel rolls her eyes.

The big kids come in and they set the table for breakfast, we have breakfast, all of the kids clear the table and then we start school.

We do school until lunch .
Hannah and Caleb are responsible for their own lessons, they come to me with problems.
I do what needs to be done with Ben and Rachel and Mary do as much as their attentions spans will allow.
Usually around lunch time we will leave and run errands, get lunch, sometimes take lunch to Stacy and then we come back home for nap time and Quiet time.

This is when I finish things I need/want to do- like read books or what- ever . The kids read or nap as long as I do not hear a sound.

Quiet time is over and the big kids finish work , the littles play and I start dinner.

Dad comes home and we hang out and play around until bath and bed time.
I yell "brush teeth" and everyone takes off, brushes teeth , gets water ,grabs a book and hits the rack.

Stacy & I give them about 30 minutes to read, then we go tuck in , pray with and kiss each little (& big)booger and the lights are out.
Then we go to our side of the house.

Most nights Rachel gets up to tell us about some noise she's heard.
One of the 3 littles will come in and want to sleep with us.
Sometimes I/ we say yes, Sometimes we read bed- time stories and put them back in the bed.
Most of the time they really do not want to sleep with us, they just need to feel special for a few minutes and reading and playing works and then they are fine.

Stacy and I get ready for bed ,grab a couple cups of green tea, grab a book, talk and read for an hour or so.
We are usually asleep by 10:30. Earlier if the kids are exhausted from riding.

Now keep in mind that on Mondays and Tuesdays our days revolve around horses and lessons.
We consider that part of their education, community service, and fellowship time with friends and family.
This will end the 3rd week in June(after the Riding camp) and does not start back until September.

We also have Church and Cambiata Choir on Sundays .

I have tried to keep a strict schedule..ya know..the one on the wall.
I have read books and tried different systems- but I will tell you what I have found.

I(just me & our family) need for life to be able to happen.
When I schedule every second of the day, i worry more about what my
schedule says I need to do and less about what is important.

Not long ago, I was telling a friend of mine that God has a good time with me on my busiest days.
I know He has a sense of humor, and He does His best to show it to me on the days I DO NOT want to see it.

There are days(and mind you this is WITHOUT FAIL. I HAVE WITNESSES!)I will have a list of things that MUST..MUST I TELL YOU..get done.

Every single time God will send me something to completely"ruin" my plans.
These things have ranged from a frantic "meal ministry" coordinator needing a casserole,a raging brush fire at my in-laws, friends needing a shoulder to cry on, or someone needing a sitter urgently!

My MASTER SCHEDULE doesn't leave much time for that.
God doesn't want me to micro-manage my time ..If He did..He would have had someone else make the dad-gum casserole cause I was trying to pack for a Disney Trip!

We also want our kids to have alot of free time to explore the arts. We want them to have time to draw& paint, bang on the piano, play these mandolins , guitars, banjos, violins, bongos, drums and tamborines we have laying all over this house. If I schedule every second of their day...they have no time for these things.
We do not have the kids involved any any organized activities. We have nothing against them, it just gives us ALOT more family time.

I still keep the schedule up on the wall.
I has been up for 4 years.

Some days we do not have to leave the house, we do not have speech or riding lessons, no one has a doctors/dentist appointment, Dad isn't having a rough day at work and needs his monkeys to bring him donuts and coffee,the kids aren't playing outside, we haven't planned a picnic,Layton & Riley aren't here, a horse or animal doesn't need to go to the vet, we don't need horse feed,a friend doesn't need a sitter, the sun isn't shining, and there are not flowers that need picking, and it isn't raining and we just want to stay in our PJ's and color and read all day....so we get to stay in and see just how much we can get done.

On those days ,I do look at that Master Schedule and see how close to the mark I can get.
Every now and then I get close...VERY VERY close... and I think I am really somethin'
...but those days are few and far between.

So there ya go....I hope you are not disappointed. ;)

I love you,

Andrea

3.25.2009

LAZY DAYS


The days are getting longer so we have a little more time
to just BE.
Ben is gets to draw a little more.


Mary has more time to go through the shoe box to find
MORE shoes that are too small.



Caleb is teaching Mary to play checkers.



She gets the biggest kick out of " I jumping he man,Mama!"
Caleb will drop his head, "OH NO!!!".




She just cackles like a little witch!
She loves her brothers.



Then he has to pretend to be a pirate with a "wooden eye".......



........maybe he isn't the BEST influence



This was the gang after lunch, yesterday.



There was a whole hour between lessons and this is what
I found them doing when I returned from the grocery store.



Just sittin' on the front steps
Solving the worlds problems.



Rachel is getting to stay up a little longer "cause the sun is still shining".



Mary found Hannah's D.S.......and Yes! She is really playing.

I have started making all of my to-do lists.
I am not overwhelmed yet....but it is coming.
Have no idea when we can look for a TA.

I'll let ya know when we see it.

PEACE.

3.23.2009

Snoopy is doing the HAPPY DANCE......



because Karla talked to Lily (in China)
and our LOA is on it's way!

Happy! Happy! Joy! Joy!


Peace.

3.22.2009

You just might be a redneck if..............


Your favorite flower is a WEED!


The kids spent half an hour picking dandelions
and making wishes.



They would rather be picking these than anything else


except for maybe strawberries...or something they can eat.



While we were at the zoo....
the guys came and cut the grass.


When we got home
our poor little dandelions were gone.



But we have the pictures............

So I guess that makes it OK.

PEACE.