2.10.2009

Stocking Your Freezer with Home- Cooked Meals.....As REQUESTED!



In 2002, My husband and our best friends decided that we were going to take a
grown-up vacation to the Caribbean.....
and when I say "Grown-up" it is really code for "Without Kids".

While planning for the trip I came Once a Month Cooking.
I decided then and there that it was the only way I could leave my children for
10 days with peace.

I had 3 children at the time.
One would eat cardboard as long as it was covered with ketchup, and the other two only wanted Mac & Cheese and/or Grilled Cheese sandwiches.

I hated to put that kind of pressure on our friend, Wendi(whom we called Other Mother)
and I knew after a couple of days they would get tired of it....So I was determined to fix all of their meals and leave them for Wendi to simply "warm up".



Well..Things didn't work out like I thought they would and I only wound up freezing a few things like soup and some meatballs.

We took our vacation. The kids were fine. The meatballs were a hit...so i made a note to self
"Frozen meatballs-GOOD".

Fast forward 3 years........

Stacy & I were again making plans for a trip out of the country.
This time, it was to bring home our 5th child...(Rachel was born during the fast forward trek) and once again I was freaking out over my children eating while I was away.
Now keep in mind that the people we had lined up to keep our children were MORE THAN CAPABLE of providing nutrients for our children. Every one of the women who stayed here cooks 10 times better than I do and they offer a larger variety when it comes to what they cook,
but I knew that I would be away from my children for 2 weeks and the thought of me not "doing " for them was making me dread the trip.

Then I remembered the cookbooks that I had purchased a few years before.



I went through them with a fine tooth comb , picked out few recipes I thought I'd try, and was off to the grocery store for the ingredients and storage wares.
To my surprise it actually worked!

One of the things that I gleaned from the cookbooks was that you can freeze ANYTHING.
There are a few recipes that do better than others, for example: 1. mashed potatoes are watery after being frozen BUT you can freeze Potato,Cheese,& Ham soup all day long. 2. You can freeze any cooked meat as long as it is covered with the juices or gravy.

When it comes to veggies- My friend Heather freezes hers already prepared.
Sometimes I freeze them prepared and sometimes I will pour in the
frozen vegetables,cover them with water, add some bacon bits, a tiny bit of real butter, sea salt, pepper, cover and freeze. When you are ready to cook them-simply pour everything frozen into a pot and cook using medium/low heat OR you can pop straight into the microwave for 7 minutes(or until cooked) and it is done.
Both are wonderful ways to store them.

Lately, because we are planning to travel in the next few months, I have been planning my meals with the intention of freezing a portion of it.

Doubling your batch will have your freezer full in no time.
Just remember to take a piece of freezer tape and label what is in the container.
It is really hard to tell what you are looking at -once it is frozen.

Here are a few of my families Frozen Favorites:

Baked Ziti and Meatballs

Pot Roast, Carrots, and Onions(served with Mashed Potatoes)

Bar B Q pork Ribs and Baked Beans

Roast Chicken and Gravy

Lasagna(Aunt Mali's or Heather's...I don't make lasagna)

Turkey OR Beef Chili

Commander's Palace Soup(Heather's)

Chicken Noodle Soup

Spaghetti and Meatballs

Turkey OR Beef Meatloaf

Field Peas

Butter Beans

Cut Green Beans

Whole Kernel Corn

Corn Casserole

Mac & Cheese

Turkey Breast

Turkey OR Chicken Dressing

Broccoli Casserole

Pineapple Chicken Breast with Rice

A few things I have learned while freezing:

Have a FREEZING PARTY!
Cooking, freezing ,and sharing the bounty with friends is AWESOME.
It helps your budget and it gives a LARGER variety in your freezer.
In my opinion-Eating something cooked by a friend is just as good as going out to dinner!

Freeze a few small batches of leftovers and see how you like them once re-heated.
You may not like the way it re-heats.

Take a piece of paper or card stock and categorize your freezers contents.
You can list by item or meal.
Tape to your refrigerator or your freezer.

Once you have removed an item or meal from your freezer, you simply mark it off of your list.
You will always know what is available and what you need to re-stock.

This is so helpful to caregivers.

I will make a menu and place it on the fridge for all to see.
When children as the caregiver, "What's for supper?"
All she has to do is look on the menu and tell them.
When it is time to start dinner she simply goes to the freezer, pulls it out, and follows the heating directions on top of the container.

Dinner is done, the children are eating something familiar, and Mom isn't worried about the caregivers stressing over dinner for 5 or more children.

If you have any questions feel free to ask.
I will answer them if I can.


PEACE.

2.09.2009

10th is the LAST DAY! Please LINK!




PLEASE! PLEASE! PLEASE! GO AND VOTE!Cookie Magazine(Conde' Nast) is having its 3rd Annual Smart Cookie Contest. (Click)

The Winner gets..... ready..... $35,000.00 for their foundation.

The young lady holding the beautiful little Asian baby is AMY ELDRIDGE, founderof LOVE WITHOUT BOUNDARIES.

Click on the circle beside her photo then scroll to the bottom to VOTE.

$35,000.00 will cover ALOT of surgeries , people.

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Thanks.

Peace.

2.07.2009

LWB Child in need of Heart Surgery!!








*** URGENT ***

Yu - Anhui

Gender: F

Need: Heart defect

Total Amount needed: $8,500.00

Remaining Amount Still Needed: $2,600.00

Donate to this child


This Baby, along with several others on the LWB site, are in need of Heart Surgery.


Please make a donation to her OR one of the other children listed on the Love Without Boundaries site.

This little girl has the same CH defect(ToF) as JiXiang.

You can look at his picture on the sidebar and see the difference that this surgery can make in the life of a child.

Wouldn't you just love to see her little blue lips turn to a lovely shade of pink?

Anything you can spare will be appreciated.

Every little bit helps.




PEACE.

2.06.2009

Dear Tami(& All)- My Top 10 (while preparing to adopt internationally)


Nurturing Your Child's Spirit-
Most Christians believe that the Montessori Approach to anything is a little too
"New Age-y" for them.
I used to think the same thing. This book is old, but Amazon carries it used for about $3.
This is my favorite .



The Primal Wound-
This is the book that they Angry Adoptees use to "further the cause".
I read it to see what all the Hub-Bub was about.
It is interesting and to be honest..some of the info does
make sense- if you think about it.
I personally think every adoptive parent should be required to read it.
When people say that "Adoption should be outlawed" and start spewing
quotes from this book...I like that I am prepared.



Parenting For A Healthy Future-
For me it is a reminder of the things that you take for granted
after you have parented for a while.





EVERY DAY BLESSINGS The Inner Work of a Mindful Parent-
Written by 2 Peace Loving , Yoga Practicing, Hippies.
This book is full of essays written by the husband and wife team
while raising their young children.
I just love the calmness of it all and the way that they take time to notice and
enjoy the tiniest parts of raising children.
That is something I often forget to do.





The Natural Child Parenting From the Heart-
LOVE IT!
This is a wonderful book on attachment parenting.
Short and to the point.



Nurturing Adoptions Creating ~Resilience after Neglect and Trauma-
Need I say more?



Children Learn What They Live Parenting to Inspire Values-
Again -I consider it a "refresher course".



Adoption Nation-
The Whole Adoption World was talking about it- so I got it.
Very interesting read.




Becoming a Family Promoting Healthy Attachments With Your Adopted Child-
Would have LOVED to have had this book before adopting Mary Elizabeth.
I think it would have eased some of the "bonding" anxiety I was feeling.




The Whole Life Adoption Book Realistic Advice For Building a Healthy
Adoptive Family-
So far - this is my favorite Adoption"how-to" book.

Just a few things.

I am a Christian . Having said that-I think the most important Book anyone can read on parenting -Adoptive or Biological -is the Bible.

I believe that God is SERIOUS about the way we raise our children & that God is for Adoption- just ask Mary & Joseph.

Knowing that makes it all a little easier.

Read as much as you can about the Chinese culture & learn a little Mandarin.

Stacy and I studied the culture, asked friends about customs and things that were important

like social graces and things to buy for gifts.

It is not hard to learn to say"Hello", "Good bye","See you tomorrow", and "Thank You" in Chinese.

I even learned to say "Thank you for Caring for our Baby Girl" so that I could thank her Ayi.

She smiled from ear to ear and hugged my neck.

That was just really cool.

All of the reading and practicing was time well spent.

You will be amazed at what you will gain by showing grace and respect for their culture.

The Chinese know when you are sincere and I promise you it will make a world of difference.

I hope this helped.

I probably have about 100 books on international adoption and/or parenting in this house.....

Maybe more..who knows...but these are the ones that have the most wear and tear.

I hope you find something you like.

We are excited for you and your family.

Can't wait to see your little girl.

PEACE.












2.04.2009

Sometimes..................


IT'S LIKE


LOOKIN' IN



THE MIRROR.


PEACE.

Letter posted by Amy E. of LWB




I most definitely wish there was a way to educate ALL adoptive parents about the truths of institutional care, however I have come to realize in my daily work that just as many parents are not online reading everything they can find on adoption as are reading.

There are hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of parents out there who have no idea what life is like for a child in an orphanage, and who head overseas to pick up their "China doll" only to be handed a baby who is unresponsive, thin, unable to eat...and on and on and on.

While adopting my son last month, I walked several times over to the White Swan (Hotel where parents stay in China) to talk to parents, and over and over I spoke with moms and dads who had no clue whatsoever about the issues their kids were having.

I heard so many times things like, "she won't eat solid foods" (oral aversion), "she has no muscle tone" (muscle atrophy from lying in a crib all day), "she won't smile" (pure grieving from being taken from her foster mom).

I guess since I live China 24/7, I assume everyone adopting does, too, which is not the case.

I was trying to process how many parents get all the way to China without ever reading about post-institutional issues.

It was sobering to me.

Babies in the NSN (non-special needs) as well as the SN (special needs) path can have issues with attachment, motor skills, emotional issues and more.

Again, I am often surprised to talk to parents leaving soon and to realize they are not prepared. One family was adopting from our foster care program, and when I told them that the child was DEEPLY attached to the mom,the father said, "guess she might cry for an hour or so then?"

An hour or so? She had been in foster care for over a year!

I tried to explain that this little girl was about ready to lose everything she had ever known, and that they should not expect her to be sunny, happy, and full of personality after an hour.

I told them to please remember the 72 hour rule.......that after 72 hours they would probably see her spark, but that she would probably grieve for a long time after that as well.

I think for many adoptive parents, they just don't want to read the "bad stuff", and so I do think that ultimately it is the parents who are at fault for not doing more to educate themselves.

There certainly are books galore out there about post-institutional issues.

I think adoption from China is very similar to giving birth.. it is much more rosy to only read the happy stories on APC (another website for adoptive parents), but I now encourage every family I meet to read the harder ones as well.

It is always a very sad day for the orphanage and everyone involved when a child that they know is absolutely fine, but perhaps thin and grieving, is returned by their new parents for being "delayed".

I think far too many people believe their child's life is going to begin the moment they meet them.

The truth is, and everyone must realize it...a child's life is going on RIGHT NOW in China, and all of their experiences are shaping who they are.

The one thing I have learned over and over again about the kids in China is that they are fighters and survivors.

But for some reason, people seem to want to ignore these issues in public forums.Recently, one of our medical babies that we had met several times in person was adopted, and we all knew that this child was a "spitfire".

When the family arrived and spent a few days with her, they decided she was too much of a handful for them and they wanted to disrupt.

She absolutely was not what they expected.

I think all of us, who do realize that delays occur and that babies can usually overcome them, should be these children's advocates by continually trying to educate new parents on what to expect in China.

By helping them be better prepared, we just might help stop a disruption in the future.

I love Chinese adoption with my whole heart, and it is my life's work…but I also want every family who goes to get their baby to go with their eyes open and to be as emotionally prepared as possible, for the child's sake.




Amy E-Love Without Boundaries"

2.02.2009

HURRY! Voting Ends Feb.10th!!!!!



PLEASE! PLEASE! PLEASE! GO AND VOTE!

Cookie Magazine(Conde' Nast) is having its 3rd Annual Smart Cookie Contest. (Click)

The Winner gets..... ready..... $35,000.00 for their foundation.

The young lady holding the beautiful little Asian baby is AMY ELDRIDGE, founder
of LOVE WITHOUT BOUNDARIES.
Click on the circle beside her photo then scroll to the bottom to VOTE.

$35,000.00 will cover ALOT of surgeries , people.

SO PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

VOTE (Click here to vote)

LINK IT

ASK YOUR FRIENDS TO VOTE

ASK YOUR FRIENDS TO LINK IT.

LWB funded my new son's heart surgery in AUGUST of last year.
We literally owe them his life.

Thanks.

Peace.