WHY I AM AN AWESOME MOM!

I was reading an article in one of my magazines.
It suggested that it is easier for a woman to list the things that make her a " Bad Mom" than it is for her to list the things that make her an "Awesome Mom".
I agree.
The second I saw the words "Bad Mom", an endless array of screw-ups rolled through my mind like the credits at the end of a Spielberg movie.
So what about the "Awesome" part?

I think we wait for someone to tell us that we are good mothers.
I think we are harder on ourselves than we should be.
I think we should all take a few minutes to see how many things we can list.
What are some of the things that make you an "AWESOME MOM"?
I thought I'd list mine here.

What Makes Me An Awesome Mom
1. I always mix M & M's into our popcorn on movie night
2. I give my girls manicures and pedicures
3. I let my kids dip Hershey bars in the peanut butter
4. I let my 2 year-olds chew gum
6. I let my kids wear their Halloween costumes to the grocery store...in April
7. I encourage our children to follow their dreams NOW
8. I believe that a bubble bath can stop any tantrum
9. I listen to Lady Gaga , Sandre' Loche,Ricky Skaggs, Usher, AND Andrea Bocelli
10.I will watch Pirates of the Caribbean 3 times a day and then put in a Barbie movie.
11. I love my children's father and I tell them
12. I teach my sons to sing and my daughters to fight
13. I can quote Star Wars
14. I can name all the X-Men
15. I teach my children to love other cultures
16. I fill my home with music
17. I am consistent
18. I let my daughters wear their biker and cowboy boots to church
19. I refuse to purchase fashion magazines for my daughters
20. I take my children to used book stores and coffee shops
21. I love play-doh
22. I love finger-painting
23. I have no problem with ice cream for dinner
24. I have no problem with cookies and milk for breakfast
25. I think cell phones and texting are BAD for children
26. I think kids SHOULD sleep with their parents
27. I think that if a child begs to stay up late-its because he needs time with his parents...not because he wants to watch T.V.
28. I believe the Bible is the best parenting book ever written
29. I love Disney and Universal Studios
30. I believe in my children

That's all I can come up with.....
NOW you see how many you can think of.

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You guys HAVE GOT to take a look at this! My friend over at LifeTree Books took our travel pictures (from Adam AND Rebekah's trips) and made photo books for my kiddos. We did this a few years back with Mary Elizabeth and she has worn the pages through. She has free access to HER book and MY pictures and photo albums stay intact. Janell can do anything you'd like: add text, change colors, add your favorite poems- she even took one of Stacy's blogs from our travel journal and added it to one of our pages! It was a complete surprise and I teared up. She is an adoptive mom...so she totally "gets" what is important when you mention the words "adoption travel". I gave her free reign. Boy am I glad I did...I love it! I cannot wait for Rebekah to see her book and after seeing this-Adam wants his NOW! So take a few seconds , hit the link above ,and check it Rebekah's Book and THEN scroll down my sidebar and hit the LIFETREE BADGE to see what these guys have to offer you and your family.

So SO SO VERY LOVED!

A few years ago, I popped open my site to see a comment left by a sweet lady with the call -name Ni Hao Y'all. As an adoptive parent of Chinese children, phrases like "Ni Hao" usually catch my attention- Not this time. I am a Southerner. I focused on "y'all". Not only did this chick obviously know what the word(it IS a word where I come from) meant...she spelled it correctly. Interesting...I had to know more. So ...I popped over to her 'House". I am so glad that I did. There I have been able to meet her husband, her children, her sister, and her sister's sweet son(I still Marvel over the Tai Chi picture in the park). I have helped her pray for safe travel , easy transitions, sick little monkeys, and peace. I have watched her pack up a family of 9 (10,11,12)and make "home" all over again with a "wink and a smile"- asking for prayer , but never complaining. I have been Blessed by her (and the rest of the crew's) desire to create beautiful t-shirts so that those like me can "shout it from the rooftops" and look really , really, cute while we do it. I have felt the power of her prayers and the incredible calmness that one can only obtain by having a heart to heart with a "been there- done that" that tells you "it will be O.K.". I have seen her children thrive and flourish because they have been given the gift of a mother who loves for the sake of loving. Each of her children are perfect and cherished and met "right where they are", so that they will have the chance to grow and learn and thrive and be everything that God promises that they will be. I love these people..plain and simple...Love Love Love. They are currently preparing to bring home 2 sweet little girls. They are having an AWESOME giveaway! MacBook , Nikon, giftcards, T-shirts..you name it..They've got it. A donation is all it takes to be added to the drawing. If you have a second, please pop over and check it out...and tell your friends. I hope you win!

Photo Shoot with Jae Feinb*rg

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DONE

My Social worker should be done with our home study this week.

I should be excited....but I am not.

I know in my heart that this is the last Adoption Trip that we will make to China.

I have been in denial, but the closer we get to reviewing files...the more I have had to come to terms with it.

I am tearing up, alot.

Very out of character for me..It take a lot to make me cry.

No more dossiers.

No more referrals.

No more packing lists.

No more embassy trips.

No more babies.

Done.

Stacy and I have discussed it and like everyone else who "calls it quits" , we have many reasons- good reasons- sane reasons....but it still doesn't feel good.

It is a strange place to be.

I go from feeling guilty to sad to mad to blessed to humbled to determined to guilty.

I imagine that I will feel differently when I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old and a ?? year old screaming for a cookie at the same time- but right now it just sucks...plain and simple.

Just one more of those "parenting" things that sneaks up on you.

I knew we'd stop having children "one day"-

I just didn't think "one day" would be here so soon.

On a more Perky note- I am off to YOU BELONG to start a new journal for the Caboose/s.

If you are new around here and you haven't had a chance to read my husband's take on our adoption trips- Feel free to hop over to my sidebar and check out the journals from our last two trips.

He really needs a blog of his own....seriously...just a fun guy.

One Tough MOTHER!

O.K...probably NOT the classiest title in the world
but I have a really warped sense of humor and it made me giggle.

Spring is pretty much here , which means we have only a few months to finish
SCHOOL YEAR 2010-2011.

We are not a "by the book" family , when it comes to home education (O.K...when it comes to anything) but I really try to make sure we stay on some sort of path .

We have had a busy year, fun...but busy...so we have found ourselves running behind in our studies.

Not such a big deal if everyone will agree to put forth the effort required for the task at hand.

A week ago, after breakfast, I called the troops to formation (time for school) and I was met with whining, rolling eyes, toddlers hiding the T.V. remote, and a very loud " but I was playing my D.S.". and "I have to get ready for my tennis lesson"

I smiled, nodded my head in approval and told the little monsters..er..darlings to carry on.
They could do what THEY wanted to do and I would spend the day doing what I wanted to do.
A Win /Win scenario.

Of course, that was met with several "woohooo' s & high 5's" and off they went....Skipping Merrily into the Land of Sloth & Artificial Stimulation.

I made myself a cup of tea, grabbed my day planner, a pen, a notebook, & my Lesson planner and I sat down in the library.

Every now and then one of the kids would walk by and say, "Whatcha doing?".

"Oh making plans", I'd say.
They'd smile..I'd smile...Happy Happy Day....so they thought.


During my time with my planner- I scratched out any and every activity that the children had( during week days) for 90 days...weekends not included.
I decided that maybe the problem was not the kids attitude toward education...maybe it was my attitude.
Maybe they didn't believe that I thought it was more important than the DS or the TV or a MOVIE.

So I was willing to take the blame and work diligently to prove to my precious children how important it is to spend your time wisely AND what can be accomplished when you do.


I call this THE 90 DAYS OF MOM!

"For 90 days we will FULLY devote ourselves to our education and wrapping up the 2010-2011 school year. No TV, No Computers, No outside commitments- NOTHING but finishing up our lessons."

"90 days? in a row?!", My 9 year old asked in disbelief. "But the DIARY OF A WIMPY KID sequel is coming out on Friday!"

"Yeah, and You can go and see it on Saturday." " You WILL NOT die if you do not see a movie on the opening night... I promise"

I also gave the kids a new set of ground rules:
*All school work must be started by 9 am and finished by 3p (without exception)Monday - Friday.
*There will be NO OUTSIDE ACTIVITIES (theatre commitments, tennis lessons, play groups, martial arts,outings with friends, dance classes,volunteer work, etc.) during THE 90 DAYS OF MOM.
*Students receive 45 minutes for lunch and relaxation.
* Students are responsible for preparing their own lunches and must use food pyramid on fridge as guide. NO SUGAR NO COLA NO EXCEPTIONS
*Students must clear and clean lunch area before resuming studies.
*Students must complete Fall reading list. Any unauthorized reading material will be confiscated and trashed.
*No artificial stimulation Monday-Friday. This includes(but not limited to): All hand held gaming devices, T.V.'s, portable DVD players, Leapsters, Wii, PS3,DVR,BluRay,surfing web on computer or cellphone.
*Cell phones will be turned in ( to Mom) at 9am (daily) and will be returned upon completion of school work. Texting will cease at 9pm Monday- Friday No EXCEPTIONS.
*Students will not Whine, Cry, Groan, Sigh, Roll Eyes,Pout,Sharpen pencil 1,000 times,work on their "comic drawing skills", make YOUTUBE videos with Legos, go to the bathroom 20 times, or give themselves/ kittens/dogs/Barbies/baby dolls/younger siblings manicures during a school day.
* Students may use computers and Main T.V. for approved educational purposes.
All educational DVD'S must be applicable & approved before viewing.
* All students must comply for 90 days.
Failure to do so will result in loss of Weekend Privileges(including vehicles and cellphones) and a possible stint in a European Boarding School.

****If , by some chance, a student finishes his/her work before THE 90 DAYS OF MOM is over-That student will receive a gift card and the right to gloat and use the "Loser" sign, at will. ****

THESE RULES WILL BE PLASTERED HIGH ON THE FRIDGE FOR ALL TO SEE.

The kids are counting down the days like they were on their way to ALCATRAZ....which is always a good sign.

THE 90 DAYS OF MOM starts April 6.

I'll let ya know how things turn out.

How?

So can anyone tell me how an attachment parent is supposed to make the trip with two...

and by two- i mean if we are matched with 2 little monkeys.

I am having a hard time getting Stacy to consider adopting out of birth order( he is TOTALLY against) so that means that there is a good chance that the newest little trouble-makers....er...sweethearts will be under the age of 2 1/2.

If you look at any of our adoption journals you'll see that most of the pictures

are of me walking around with a little one hanging on like a monkey in a banana tree.

Don't get me wrong,-I think strollers rock...we just use them as little as possible during our first weeks with our new child.

Our parenting style is not for everyone, mind you, but it works for us.

I try to spend those first precious weeks trying to figure out how my new baby ticks.

I watch. I listen. I smile. I let the baby nap on my chest so that he/she can hear my heart beat. I try to establish a rythm. I take mental notes.

'Doesn't like dairy. Mad cry. Hungry cry. Scared cry. Sleepy cry. Likes Daddy if Daddy has chocolate. "

We sleep together, we bathe together, we eat together, and I HOLD, HOLD, HOLD.

Which leads me back to my original question-

How is 1 Mama going to do this with 2 SN infant/toddlers?

What about carriers for 2 children ( One in front- One in back)?

Ive seen this done, but I have to tell ya...I'm not an Amazon warrior.

I have years of wear and tear on my back and hips from sports, horseback riding, and chasing kids... I honestly do not think I could physically carry 2 kids around at the same time.

Not more than ONCE , anyway.

Oh! and do they even SELL double strollers in China??

Do ya just get two?

That just seems like a bad idea... I mean how is Dad going to take pictures,

carry the diaper bags, and the shopping bags if he is pushing a stroller, too? :)

What if the kids "will not let Daddy hold" or worse "will not let Mama hold"?

What if one "likes" Mom and one doesn't??

What if (ala Rebekah) they will not sit in a high chair and they won't let Daddy hold??

How do you feed two kids sitting in your lap ?

Seriously...can you tell I am freaking out a little here?

I wake up in the middle of the night thinking about these things.

The "one at a time" deal has always worked out pretty well for us, so I really have no idea why this is stressing me so.

Maybe it is because Adam is 3 1/2 and Rebekah just turned 2 and I know how hard they can be, at times.

Does anyone have any ideas....or know where I can find a double stroller in China?

You know..just in case I need one. ;)